23 Things you do that turn your man off

As human beings, there are certain annoying habits that we have that could be seriously annoying to other people but then there’s no way those people can tell us to rectify them for fear of upsetting us or maybe making things worse and there’s also the possibility that we will hold an unnecessary grudge.

Ladies, there are many things that you do unknowingly that can turn your man off but he just can’t tell you. Here are the most common reasons. So read them and make sure to avoid them if you’re a culprit.
1. Being unresponsive when it comes to bedroom matters and talking too much or doing random things like texting in bed and also never being bold enough to initiate sex.
2. Wearing a hideous scarf or helmet to bed and wearing hideous unsightly underwear.
3. Gully creeping in heels you can barely walk in, wearing too much bad make-up and overdoing it with jewellery
4. Being too much of a tomboy. If he wanted to be with a fellow man he’d be playing for the other team.
5. Constant nagging and hints for him to put a ring on it and constantly talking of having children.
6. Devaluing his friends and the people he hangs out with.
7. Trying to make him jealous by flirting with other men outrageously right before his eyes.
8. Being over- dramatic, over emotional, needy, clingy and insecure.
9. Having a very feminist attitude.
10. Speaking ill of people especially his family members.
11. Drinking too much and losing yourself because of booze. This is equivalent to lacking self respect.
12. Being overly materialistic and always waiting for things to be done for you.
13. Lacking self confidence and constantly worrying about your appearance.
14. Talking about your past relationships all the time.
15. Always rubbing it in his face how all the men want you.
16. Unshaven armpits, chipped nail polish, rough feet, bad hair, bad breath, foul smelling sweat, chapped lips and behaving uncouthly like burping , farting, aimlessly and shamelessly all the time
17. Dragging him with you to go shoes and clothes shopping especially for mitumba stuff.
18. Making him hold your handbag. This is with the exception of if he is holding it for you so that you can beat the crap out of a thug.
19. Inability to cook or even clean and always acting dumb.
20. Sharing your relationship issues with all your friends, relatives and then with the whole world.
21. Calling him 100 times a day to tell him nothing in particular and trying to find out what he’s up to.
22. Never having his back and always undermining his capabilities.
23. Smothering him, especially in front of his boys.
Well, if you didn’t know now you know!

7 things women are insecure about

I think it’s safe to say that no matter how confident they are, most women are insecure about a thing or two . . . especially when it comes to dating. Here are seven of the biggest ones, and what you can do about it.

#1) That you won’t call
Women are always stressing over whether or not you’re going to call them after a date. So if you tell her you’re going to call her on Tuesday, call her on Tuesday.
But if that’s just not your style, or you’d like to keep her guessing, don’t give her a definite day when you’ll call. It’s better than breaking a promise, and it saves her from waiting for your call on a particular day.

#2) That you just want to sleep with her
It’s a fine line: if you make a move too soon, she’ll think that’s all you want. If you wait too long, she’ll think you’re not interested.
The best way to work this one is to just be sincere. If you’re actually interested in a relationship, let her know. From there, she’ll give you the signals to let you know when she’s ready to get freaky.

#3) That you are dating other women
It’s okay to casually date more than one person at the same time . . . as long as you’re honest about it. You don’t have to bring it up, but if SHE does, be honest.
But once you start sleeping together, or things seem to get more serious, she might assume you’re exclusive. So it’s only fair to let her know if that’s NOT the case.

#4) That you are not interested
Even the most confident woman sometimes needs a reminder that you’re interested in her. Even if you’re months into the relationship . . . or even years . . . she’ll still need reassurance now and then.

#5) That another woman is stealing your attention
There’s nothing wrong with harmless flirting. But when you’re out with her, you should devote your attention to HER. The easiest way to think about it is to reverse it: How would you feel if she was flirting with anotherguy right in front of you?

#6) That you are cheating on her
If she’s worried that you’re cheating on her, there’s usually a reason: maybe she’s been cheated on before, or she knows you’ve done it in the past.
But if that’s not the case . . . and even if you think she’s being totally irrational . . . you’re going to have to discuss the issue head-on and let her know that you’re committed and have no intention of cheating.

#7) That she is not satisfying you in bed
Women worry about how they’re doing in the sack, just like men do. So if things are going well, make sure you let her know.
And if things AREN’T going well, you’ve got to bring it up in the most sensitive way possible.